How my parents discipline me?

To tell you the truth, my past is very harsh especially at the hand of my father. He discipline us in a harsh way like giving us a kick if we did something wrong or if we can make our tasked for the day at the house. Not only a kick like a ball but he gave us a strong pinch in our arms or thighs. There's a time that he drag my hair while im talking with my friends. I dont know why he did that infront of my friends, i feel very embarrased that time. Its kind a hurt thats why i hate my father before, but when he passed away, i feel sorry about it. I know he loves us but the way he discipline us is not a good way. It makes us hated him and become rebellious. On my mother side, my mom is a good person, she dont want to see us get hurt. If we did wrong, she just talk with us and tell us, the thing we did is wrong and we need to change and not doing it again. Sometimes she gave us pinch as a discipline but its not as strong as my papa does. We love our mom and we treasure her so much. Im so thankful to her because we grow up as a good kid. Thats the way i want to discipline my kids, just like my mom does. Not so harsh, not so rough.

Discipline - does it need to be harsh or rough?

How do you discipline your kids? If you disciplining them, does it need to be harsh or rough so that your kids will listen to you? or does it need to be more consistent of disciplining them? I dont know much about discipline but as a mother of my 2 year old son, of course i try my best to discipline him in a good way without hurting him that much. I see many parents treat their child harsh and rough especially when it comes to discipline. But do you think it helps them to be a good person when they grow up? I see many kids when i was in the Philippines that treated so bad with their parents. When they do something bad, their parents hit them with a big stick, put them in a sack and hanged them, let them kneel and put salt at their knees, kneel while parents put heavy books at their head and hands. It seems like this kind of stuff are not appropriate anymore for disciplining kids. I feel what kids feel you know... im scared because maybe when they grow up they will become more rebellious and they will going to hate their parents too. Its kind a scary isn't it? I dont want to make it happen with Dustin. Anyway the way i discipline my child is different, i dont give him spankin if his mistake is not that serious. But if he is acting too much, thats the time i give him spankin or pinch on his leg. He is such a mama's boy, he scared to his dad sometimes especially if his dad giving him spankin if he don't listen. If his dad giving him spankin, he go after me and give me hug and say "mom..." but im glad he know how to say sorry after he cry.